Ben In Dresses

I like crossdressing. And my beard. Among a variety of other things. If you like both or either, hit me up. Pittsburgh, twenty-one, bi/queer

I'm truly grateful for everyone who writes in, follows me, or spreads my pictures. I'm always amazed that other people enjoy and are inspired by what I just think is having a good time. The world is a changing place, people are much more accepting of men in skirts and dresses. Let's smash the binaries and encourage expression! If you ever have questions about me or what I do, I am very open to answering them!

saritasobrevive said: (I talked to you in your neighborhood about miniature tigers - I hang out a lot with Angela, Mark, Jess & Andrew across the street from you) OMG Ben! I saw you were gender-non-conforming in person but I didn't know you were THIS cool. Haha anyway I just started coming out as genderqueer like earlier this week haha

Oh yeah! I remember, you were on the porch across the street last week!

Haha, why thank you, Sarita :D Psyched to have a new GQ friend- We should hang out sometime, go do queer things!!

Also, do you follow the tumblr, genderoftheday? Highly recommended for gender discovery…sorta

Anonymous said: Thank you Ben. I'm a straight make but thanks to you I had the courage to buy my first ever dress. At the minute I'm only brave enough to wear it around the house. But if I hadn't found your blog I never could've taken this rep. :)

Congratulations!!! :D You’ll get more comfortable with the whole thing. Tell some good friends and go out with them for support. It’s a process, keep it up :)

Being told that I’m an inspiration, or that I give people confidence, never fails to make my day. I’m just a hairy queer who loathes pants and loves dresses- I never expected any of it to mean anything to anyone else; I’m rather glad it does :D

Anonymous said: Have you ever had a boyfriend?

I seem to have spaced on this anon a while ago! I have not, a few girlfriends here or there, but no boyfriend, which is a real shame, they sound pretty fun :) Why, you trying to audition? ;P

It’s been weeks! This is inexcusable! Welcome to new followers, love to everyone old and new :)

Today’s post starts with a splash through the Frick Fine Art’s fountain during WYEP’s summer concerts with an incredible lady named Libby. Met her at a Head and the Heart concert and she’s a true energizer bunny. Splashing through a fountain in a skirt make me feel like the 8 year old girl I never got to be :P

#2 is another foray into nail art, now that I bought myself a pen. How’d I do?

Pic 3 is of me performing stand up at the Bulldog Pub in Morningside, great experience, although certainly the wrong crowd…I’ll try again in somewhere a bit more liberal and tell yinz how it goes!

The last photo is a rare “dude clothes” shot of me. This summer I’ve been working on a production of Macbeth down in Schenley Park. I was Banquo and had a glorious chest wound of latex. (Minor genderqueer shock when I had to shave my chest hair for the craft, but it turned out alright and it’s coming back in at an acceptable pace) The show went far better than I could have expected (and is the reason for fewer posts), I haven’t had such a ball with theatre in years!

Welp! That’s your update, I hope to have more soon now that I’m not as busy. As always, I thrive off of your comments, questions, and concerns, love to hear from anyone who wants to say anything :)

wahya-nvda said: I just went through your blog and love your style. I noticed you have issues finding shoes my friend works for breastformstore and they have a bunch of shoes online in bigger sizes for crossdressing. you should check them out.

As gorgeous as shoes from that site are, they’re faaaar out of my price range :( Thanks for the tip and the follow :D Nice tats!

bevsi:

saw a cute post

I haven’t seen Frozen (hate anon if you want [off anon if you really want]), but this was too on the nose (aka adorable) not to reblog. Wish I had done Belle as a kid, that’s how happy I’d’ve looked…

bevsi:

saw a cute post

I haven’t seen Frozen (hate anon if you want [off anon if you really want]), but this was too on the nose (aka adorable) not to reblog. Wish I had done Belle as a kid, that’s how happy I’d’ve looked…

(via lacigreen)

hashtag-sorry said: You're so cute! I swear!!

Swear all you want an never let them stop you! ….Also you’re waaaay cuter :)

twerkspotting:

conradtao:

aliveagaintoday:

priceofliberty:

Video Shows Pittsburgh Cop Punching Teen At Gay Pride In An Apparent Use Of Excessive Force
A video showing a Pittsburgh Police officer using what appears to be excessive force on a 19-year-old Pittsburgh PrideFest attendee, has sparked outrage online after it was shared on Facebook late Sunday afternoon.
According to eyewitness Autumn Huntera, the incident occurred around 5 o’clock Sunday afternoon. Huntera explains that the teen engaged in a heated debate with a group of anti-gay protesters attending the Pride festival: “She was saying that being gay is not a sin and that she was a lesbian and proud of it, and that she wasn’t going to hell for it.”
Huntera detailed her account of the incident for us:


The girl was debating with one of the protesters, and she stepped closer without even realizing it and the officer ran over to her. He grabbed her by the back of her neck, pulled her over, dropped her on the ground, pulled her up by her hair, and said “Do you want me to hit you.” When she didn’t respond, he hit her in stomach area about 4 or 5 times repeatedly. After everyone yelled at him, he hand cuffed her, put her against a wall. She was crying against a wall next to her ‘attacker’ while her fiancee was panicking trying to find someone who recorded it.


Huntera adds that the protester and teen were about a foot apart when the officer grabbed her without prior warning.

Please signal boost, the news stations in the area are NOT giving it much airtime or writing articles about it, so we need to spread the word.
Pittsburgh cops are known for being super corrupt and I won’t be surprised if nothing comes of this and he walks away a free man. DONT LET THAT HAPPEN

pride season is here, keep an eye out for the scum supposedly “protecting” us, and remember this when Pride™ encourages you to “notify law enforcement” if you see anything “suspicious,” because they so obviously do not have our safety in mind

Signal boost, although for what it’s worth, the city seems to be diligently handling the situation. The officer was taken off the street and put under investigation within 24 hours of the incident. The mayor made a bunch of vague but encouraging statements about it.

yep, yep, yep. My duty as a Queer Pittsburgher is to blog the homophobia out of our police force

twerkspotting:

conradtao:

aliveagaintoday:

priceofliberty:

Video Shows Pittsburgh Cop Punching Teen At Gay Pride In An Apparent Use Of Excessive Force

A video showing a Pittsburgh Police officer using what appears to be excessive force on a 19-year-old Pittsburgh PrideFest attendee, has sparked outrage online after it was shared on Facebook late Sunday afternoon.

According to eyewitness Autumn Huntera, the incident occurred around 5 o’clock Sunday afternoon. Huntera explains that the teen engaged in a heated debate with a group of anti-gay protesters attending the Pride festival: “She was saying that being gay is not a sin and that she was a lesbian and proud of it, and that she wasn’t going to hell for it.”

Huntera detailed her account of the incident for us:

The girl was debating with one of the protesters, and she stepped closer without even realizing it and the officer ran over to her. He grabbed her by the back of her neck, pulled her over, dropped her on the ground, pulled her up by her hair, and said “Do you want me to hit you.” When she didn’t respond, he hit her in stomach area about 4 or 5 times repeatedly. After everyone yelled at him, he hand cuffed her, put her against a wall. She was crying against a wall next to her ‘attacker’ while her fiancee was panicking trying to find someone who recorded it.

Huntera adds that the protester and teen were about a foot apart when the officer grabbed her without prior warning.

Please signal boost, the news stations in the area are NOT giving it much airtime or writing articles about it, so we need to spread the word.

Pittsburgh cops are known for being super corrupt and I won’t be surprised if nothing comes of this and he walks away a free man. DONT LET THAT HAPPEN

pride season is here, keep an eye out for the scum supposedly “protecting” us, and remember this when Pride™ encourages you to “notify law enforcement” if you see anything “suspicious,” because they so obviously do not have our safety in mind

Signal boost, although for what it’s worth, the city seems to be diligently handling the situation. The officer was taken off the street and put under investigation within 24 hours of the incident. The mayor made a bunch of vague but encouraging statements about it.

yep, yep, yep. My duty as a Queer Pittsburgher is to blog the homophobia out of our police force

http://aboynamedroxy.tumblr.com/ - First off, killer blog, I love seeing other people play around with gender and how to display gender fluidity! If you ever want to swap stories or tips, I’m so down! Thanks for le compliment!
Second, about Payless: When we entered the store, my friend, Helena, started to ask the lady what size women’s go up to, but by that time I had seen the “Women’s 13” sign and was running in joy! So, even as I heel-toed around the room getting used to real 3 inch heels in (almost) my size, the workers didn’t say anything positive or negative, were fine with me wearing the shoes out the store, and on the whole, I was too giddy to even notice them sideways looks.
Point being, go to the store, try on everything cool, buy what you like. If the workers look uncomfortable it’s all the more reason to ask them for help, if they approach you and praise your genderf*cking (I’m looking at you WetSeal!) then all the better. You’re out there to stun the world and have a blast- don’t let some sideways Payless looks get in your way, live for their confusion!

http://aboynamedroxy.tumblr.com/ - First off, killer blog, I love seeing other people play around with gender and how to display gender fluidity! If you ever want to swap stories or tips, I’m so down! Thanks for le compliment!

Second, about Payless: When we entered the store, my friend, Helena, started to ask the lady what size women’s go up to, but by that time I had seen the “Women’s 13” sign and was running in joy! So, even as I heel-toed around the room getting used to real 3 inch heels in (almost) my size, the workers didn’t say anything positive or negative, were fine with me wearing the shoes out the store, and on the whole, I was too giddy to even notice them sideways looks.

Point being, go to the store, try on everything cool, buy what you like. If the workers look uncomfortable it’s all the more reason to ask them for help, if they approach you and praise your genderf*cking (I’m looking at you WetSeal!) then all the better. You’re out there to stun the world and have a blast- don’t let some sideways Payless looks get in your way, live for their confusion!

Anonymous said: CAN I PLEASE HAVE YOUR DRESSES THEYRE PERFECT I love you

hahaa! You’re perfect anon, and I love you! Which one do you want? Maybe I can point you it’s way! (also, there’s no perfect dress! Are you new? :P)

Anonymous said: you're so cute i want to make out with you

Heh, so you’re my type then? People who are into me ;P Come offa anon sometime, I promise I won’t bite…hard! (…unless you’re into that)

Mall Trip with Helena #2: I FOUND HEELS THAT FIT!!! Go Payless! I had no idea that they had women’s shoes up to size 13!! Heels stop at 11 where I was, but by golly I can shove into these just fine!

The red skirt is from Wet Seal, who loved my whole look like no other store. The last top (my first foray into peplum) is also WetSeal. The top top is from H&M, always a solid bet.

The middle pics are my summer so far, the first is a cruddy pic of my first attempt at nail art- Step 1: purple OPI, Step 2: tape, Step 3: black tip. that simple! Did it Wednesday and it’s still good here on Monday!

The second is what my 10-4pms look like, painted nails and a crowbar as I rip up carpets and paint walls- my fancilful collision of masculine and feminine.

ALSO! I am doing a Macbeth (more like MacDeath if we can get our $100 of fake blood). I’m playing Banquo, so I get to die and come back as a ghost and bleed all over the place! If you want to help us (AND PLEASE DO-I never beg like this but I am this time!) please go to- https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/the-o-s-c-presents-macbeth and fund our IndieGoGo! There will be pics!

Thanks so much and welcome to new followers! My askbox is always open :D

eldarofvalinor:

Pennsylvania is now the 19th state in the United States of America to legalize same-sex marriage. Welcome to the right side of history, my beautiful home state.

One more!!!! Oregon yesterday, PA today, tomorrow the world!

eldarofvalinor:

Pennsylvania is now the 19th state in the United States of America to legalize same-sex marriage. Welcome to the right side of history, my beautiful home state.

One more!!!! Oregon yesterday, PA today, tomorrow the world!

(Source: kelli-withan-i)


20 May 2014

WOOOHOOO!!!! I always figured we’d be #35 or something terrible like that! I blew my voice out screaming from the rooftops!

20 May 2014

WOOOHOOO!!!! I always figured we’d be #35 or something terrible like that! I blew my voice out screaming from the rooftops!

(Source: viintages, via digginawell)

abriana-gonzalez said: You're beautiful 💜

D’aww :D you’re too kind!