saritasobrevive said: (I talked to you in your neighborhood about miniature tigers - I hang out a lot with Angela, Mark, Jess & Andrew across the street from you) OMG Ben! I saw you were gender-non-conforming in person but I didn't know you were THIS cool. Haha anyway I just started coming out as genderqueer like earlier this week haha
Oh yeah! I remember, you were on the porch across the street last week!
Haha, why thank you, Sarita :D Psyched to have a new GQ friend- We should hang out sometime, go do queer things!!
Also, do you follow the tumblr, genderoftheday? Highly recommended for gender discovery…sorta
Anonymous said: Thank you Ben. I'm a straight make but thanks to you I had the courage to buy my first ever dress. At the minute I'm only brave enough to wear it around the house. But if I hadn't found your blog I never could've taken this rep. :)
Congratulations!!! :D You’ll get more comfortable with the whole thing. Tell some good friends and go out with them for support. It’s a process, keep it up :)
Being told that I’m an inspiration, or that I give people confidence, never fails to make my day. I’m just a hairy queer who loathes pants and loves dresses- I never expected any of it to mean anything to anyone else; I’m rather glad it does :D
Anonymous said: Have you ever had a boyfriend?
I seem to have spaced on this anon a while ago! I have not, a few girlfriends here or there, but no boyfriend, which is a real shame, they sound pretty fun :) Why, you trying to audition? ;P
It’s been weeks! This is inexcusable! Welcome to new followers, love to everyone old and new :)
Today’s post starts with a splash through the Frick Fine Art’s fountain during WYEP’s summer concerts with an incredible lady named Libby. Met her at a Head and the Heart concert and she’s a true energizer bunny. Splashing through a fountain in a skirt make me feel like the 8 year old girl I never got to be :P
#2 is another foray into nail art, now that I bought myself a pen. How’d I do?
Pic 3 is of me performing stand up at the Bulldog Pub in Morningside, great experience, although certainly the wrong crowd…I’ll try again in somewhere a bit more liberal and tell yinz how it goes!
The last photo is a rare “dude clothes” shot of me. This summer I’ve been working on a production of Macbeth down in Schenley Park. I was Banquo and had a glorious chest wound of latex. (Minor genderqueer shock when I had to shave my chest hair for the craft, but it turned out alright and it’s coming back in at an acceptable pace) The show went far better than I could have expected (and is the reason for fewer posts), I haven’t had such a ball with theatre in years!
Welp! That’s your update, I hope to have more soon now that I’m not as busy. As always, I thrive off of your comments, questions, and concerns, love to hear from anyone who wants to say anything :)
wahya-nvda said: I just went through your blog and love your style. I noticed you have issues finding shoes my friend works for breastformstore and they have a bunch of shoes online in bigger sizes for crossdressing. you should check them out.
As gorgeous as shoes from that site are, they’re faaaar out of my price range :( Thanks for the tip and the follow :D Nice tats!
hashtag-sorry said: You're so cute! I swear!!
Swear all you want an never let them stop you! ….Also you’re waaaay cuter :)
Anonymous said: CAN I PLEASE HAVE YOUR DRESSES THEYRE PERFECT I love you
hahaa! You’re perfect anon, and I love you! Which one do you want? Maybe I can point you it’s way! (also, there’s no perfect dress! Are you new? :P)
Anonymous said: you're so cute i want to make out with you
Heh, so you’re my type then? People who are into me ;P Come offa anon sometime, I promise I won’t bite…hard! (…unless you’re into that)
Mall Trip with Helena #2: I FOUND HEELS THAT FIT!!! Go Payless! I had no idea that they had women’s shoes up to size 13!! Heels stop at 11 where I was, but by golly I can shove into these just fine!
The red skirt is from Wet Seal, who loved my whole look like no other store. The last top (my first foray into peplum) is also WetSeal. The top top is from H&M, always a solid bet.
The middle pics are my summer so far, the first is a cruddy pic of my first attempt at nail art- Step 1: purple OPI, Step 2: tape, Step 3: black tip. that simple! Did it Wednesday and it’s still good here on Monday!
The second is what my 10-4pms look like, painted nails and a crowbar as I rip up carpets and paint walls- my fancilful collision of masculine and feminine.
ALSO! I am doing a Macbeth (more like MacDeath if we can get our $100 of fake blood). I’m playing Banquo, so I get to die and come back as a ghost and bleed all over the place! If you want to help us (AND PLEASE DO-I never beg like this but I am this time!) please go to- https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/the-o-s-c-presents-macbeth and fund our IndieGoGo! There will be pics!
Thanks so much and welcome to new followers! My askbox is always open :D
Pennsylvania is now the 19th state in the United States of America to legalize same-sex marriage. Welcome to the right side of history, my beautiful home state.
One more!!!! Oregon yesterday, PA today, tomorrow the world!
20 May 2014
WOOOHOOO!!!! I always figured we’d be #35 or something terrible like that! I blew my voice out screaming from the rooftops!
(Source: viintages, via digginawell)
abriana-gonzalez said: You're beautiful 💜
D’aww :D you’re too kind!